Life Coaching with Christine Hassler 09: Getting Over Loss
This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. My coaching call with Regina today uncovers the challenges she is having with grief over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She’s is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life.
Regina experiences an “aha” when she realizes she is able to create the positive future she desires.
Take note of Regina’s tone of voice before my coaching as she describes beating herself up and then again after we discuss her ability to practice self-love.
Regina shared her progress with me in an email after our session. She writes “I’ve started forgiving myself and when I find myself in a negative thought I stop and think “this isn’t self-love”.
It’s a reminder to all of us to live, not just exist. Find something you want to live for, even it seems silly and give yourself permission to love.
Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you recently been through a loss and can’t seem to move on? Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve? Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently? Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again? Regina’s Question: Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted.
Regina’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● There is a part of her that doesn’t want to “be” anymore ● She doesn’t believe we get more than one love in our lives ● She beats herself up a lot ● She knows if she could create a negative story for herself she is capable of creating a positive story too
How to get over it and on with it: ● Make a choice to start creating a future which is enlivening ● Give yourself permission to live ● Speak to yourself like a loving mother would to a child ● Write out some promises you will keep to yourself
Tools and Takeaways: ● Practice self-love ● Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life ● Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time
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