Ep 379 Emotional Fluency, Acting, and Getting It Wrong Sometimes with Victoria Shalet and Adam James

Zach sits down with couple Victoria Shalet and Adam James for a thoughtful and honest conversation about navigating the complexities of partnership. Drawing from their experiences in psychotherapy and performance, they unpack how their personal and professional worlds inform the way they connect, communicate, and occasionally clash.

Through light banter and open reflection, they explore moments of conflict, the importance of language in de-escalating tension, and the ways in which curiosity and humor keep them grounded. The episode offers listeners a window into a real, evolving relationship—complete with vulnerability, insight, and a shared desire to do better.

Key Takeaways

• Words carry emotional weight
  Replacing phrases like “that’s crazy” with “that’s surprising” can reduce defensiveness and create more space for empathy.

• Curiosity is a relationship strength
  Being able to ask your partner, “What’s really going on here?” rather than jumping to conclusions can keep you connected even in disagreement.

• Repair isn’t a performance
  What matters most is showing up after a rupture and trying again, not always getting it perfect in the moment.

• Therapy and acting intersect
  Understanding roles, scripts, and self-reflection can enrich how we navigate relational dynamics—but they don’t make us immune to the mess.

• Laughter lightens the load
  Humor isn’t just a relief valve—it’s a tool for staying close during tough conversations.

Guest Info Victoria Shalet
A former actor turned psychotherapist, Victoria now works with clients to build emotional resilience and deeper self-awareness. Her therapeutic lens brings nuance and reflection to how she shows up in her relationship. Learn more at spaceinme.com.

Adam James
Adam is a seasoned British actor with credits across television, theatre, and film, including roles in Doctor Foster, I May Destroy You, and Belgravia. His insight into communication, presence, and emotional fluency offers a unique complement to his partner’s therapeutic perspective. View his work at IMDb.

Key Takeaways Guest Info

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