Mori Taheripour Shares How to Bring Yourself to Negotiations
Apr 14, 2020
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This podcast explores the benefits of bringing your true self to negotiations. The conversation focuses on effective traits of negotiators, the role of empathy in negotiations and relationships, and finding common ground with someone you disagree with. The podcast also discusses the importance of acknowledging difficult emotions, the power of asking questions and listening, and understanding others' needs in negotiations.
Bringing your true self to negotiations can foster connection and build stronger relationships.
Empathy is a secret power in negotiations, allowing for better outcomes and bridging divides.
Deep dives
Negotiation is more than just finding bargains or dealing with crises
Negotiation is often associated with finding bargains or handling crises, but it encompasses so much more. In the midst of the coronavirus pandemic, negotiation is a vital skill in navigating new structures, working arrangements, and relationships. It is crucial to recognize that negotiation is not limited to specific circumstances; it is a fundamental part of life. Bringing your true self to negotiations can have numerous benefits, fostering connection and building stronger relationships. Negotiation is about understanding and empathy, not just winning or conflict.
The power of empathy and self-interest in negotiation
Empathy, often associated with weakness in negotiation, is actually a secret power that can make someone a great negotiator. Introverts, with their ability to focus, pay attention, and listen well, possess an advantage in negotiations. Empathy and understanding the other party's perspective can strengthen rapport and cultivate better outcomes. Balancing empathy with self-interest involves recognizing the shared humanity and commonalities we have with others. Negotiation is not about sacrificing one's self-interest, but about finding common ground and building stronger connections.
Negotiation as a tool for healing divisions and finding hope
The current political and social divide underscores the need for healing and dialogue. Negotiation plays a crucial role in bridging these gaps and creating stronger relationships. Even in challenging times, such as the ongoing pandemic, moments of kindness and shared humanity emerge, offering hope for unity. Engaging in difficult conversations, rather than avoiding them, presents opportunities for growth, mutual understanding, and expanding your own perspectives. Negotiation is not about blindly agreeing, but about respectful dialogue, empathy, and finding common ground.
When we think of negotiators, we often think of people who are trying to find a bargain, job seekers, or people on the front lines of a hostage situation. Those things might be true some of the time, but there’s so much more to it than that. Life is a negotiation; and right now, it’s showing up in the form of negotiating new structures, working arrangements, and relationships in light of the coronavirus pandemic. We’re all negotiators.
Our question this episode: what are the benefits of bringing yourself – your true self – to a negotiation?
My conversation with Mori Taheripour focuses on her new book, "Bring Yourself: How to Harness the Power of Connection to Negotiate Fearlessly." We talk about the different traits of effective negotiators (it's not what you would assume), the role of empathy in successful negotiations (and relationships), and what to keep in mind when you're negotiating ideas with someone you disagree with (she feels hopeful we can find common ground).
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