The Ineffectiveness of Bouncing Your Eyes

The practice of bouncing your eyes, which involves immediately looking away from sexually attractive individuals, is deemed ineffective and unkind. This strategy, popularized by books like 'Every Man's Battle,' assumes that sexual attraction itself is a problem and promotes a reflexive response that can heighten feelings of shame and fear. Instead of addressing the underlying emotions and thoughts related to sexual attraction, bouncing creates a cycle of repression that can lead to a 'rubber band rebound,' where suppressed feelings emerge with greater intensity later on. Ultimately, this approach overlooks the necessity of self-compassion and a deeper understanding of one’s sexual feelings.