Small Things Often Two Sides of Stonewalling
Apr 20, 2020
This discussion dives into the complex topic of stonewalling in relationships. It highlights how emotional withdrawal during conflicts can create barriers between partners. Practical strategies are shared, including the use of a 'timeout signal' to navigate overwhelming feelings. The goal is to encourage healthier conversations and reconnect with each other, transforming conflicts into opportunities for growth.
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Stonewalling Has Two Perspectives
- Stonewalling is shutting down and withdrawing when emotionally overwhelmed during an argument.
- Both partners may interpret that shutdown differently, creating a conflict loop.
Small Argument Escalates Quickly
- A small complaint about grocery spending can escalate into a flood of emotions and shutdown.
- One partner may panic and close up while the other feels ignored or dismissed.
Use A Prearranged Timeout Signal
- Agree on a timeout signal ahead of time when you're calm and collected.
- Use the signal to pause, take 20 to 30 minutes alone, calm down, and then resume rationally.