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ERP 343: How To Protect Your Marriage From Divorce — An Interview With David Erdman

Oct 25, 2022

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Marriage is one of the most significant decisions one has to make. It is designed to foster a partnership, a lifelong commitment, and a sense of shared success and happiness between two people. Nobody enters into a marriage expecting it to end in divorce, but as couples spend more time together and get to know one another better, conflicts may arise, responsibilities and priorities may change, and if couples can't work it out, it may result in divorce.

There are marriage and couple's therapists who can assist couples in working through conflicts, but if the relationship is beyond saving, you might want to speak with a divorce lawyer who can guide you through the legal process.

Have you heard of a divorce attorney that helps couples stay in their marriage? That sounds ironic.

While most divorce lawyers focus on getting the best settlement offer their clients can get, even if that means adding fuel to the fire, David Erdman approaches his cases differently.

David has been happily married for 38 years and has practiced divorce law for over 40 years. He is a graduate of Duke University and the Georgetown University Law Center. David is an advocate and ally for clients who are working to save their marriages with a focus on children. He is also a veteran of over 5,000 marriage-related legal consultations, which inspired him to write the book, The Ten Commandments of Marriage: Secrets of a Divorce Lawyer.

In this episode, David discusses his unique approach to handling divorce cases. We'll discover how he is shifting the emphasis from the impending separation to making your marriage the way you want it to be by asking the right questions. Furthermore, he outlines what is in his book while focusing on the most important rules and delivering some insightful advice.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

4:54 David's motivation for writing The Ten Commandments of Marriage: A compilation of what he discovered from more than 5000 other marriages over the course of 40 years.

13:28 Asking clients probing questions to help them prepare for negotiations.

19:12 What is unforgivable?

25:29 Thou shalt learn to resolve differences.

28:34 What happens in a relationship when there is equality.

35:35 Top reasons for divorce: the percentage of women who are more likely to initiate divorce.

38:36 How to make sex satisfying for both you and your partner.

42:49 Spouses’ superpowers that you should not neglect.

44:47 Thou shall NOT allow children to obstruct your marriage

49:04 Golden nuggets of advice

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The Ten Commandments of Marriage: Secrets of a Divorce Lawyer (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love