Agents of Everything with James Tripp
AoE #019 - Embracing Choice, Creativity, and Freedom with Steve Chandler
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Quick takeaways
- Embrace 'I that Chooses' to break free from past patterns and empower proactive decision-making.
- Utilize powerful distinctions like testing vs. trusting and agreements vs. expectations for clarity and action.
- Prioritize effective communication by considering audience reception, simplicity, and relatability for impactful coaching relationships.
Deep dives
The Power of Choosing the 'Eye That Chooses'
Steve Chandler introduces the concept of choosing the 'eye that chooses' to move away from unconscious patterning and identify with the power of choice in the present moment, rather than being stuck in past traumas or subconscious patterns. This shift in mindset allows for immediate action and creation without delving deep into psychological analysis, emphasizing the significance of proactive decision-making.
Utilizing Distinctions for Empowerment
Through the use of powerful distinctions, Steve Chandler provides a framework for making choices and taking control of one's life. These distinctions, such as testing versus trusting, agreements versus expectations, and owner versus victim mindset, simplify complex concepts and encourage action and creativity. By offering clear contrasts, individuals can navigate challenges with a stronger sense of agency and intention.
Enhancing Communication for Impact
Steve Chandler emphasizes the importance of effective communication by focusing on how messages are received rather than solely on delivery. By considering the listener's perspective, Chandler aims to create evocative and relatable content that resonates with simplicity and clarity. Drawing from his background in music and writing, he highlights the significance of engaging the audience's imagination and ensuring that messages are easily understood and actionable.
Embracing Creative Freedom and Allowing Unfolding Moments
The podcast episode delves into the concept of embracing creative freedom and accepting unfolding moments in coaching. The speaker highlights the importance of dancing with the creative flow and letting go of rigid rules or structures in coaching. By sharing personal experiences of quitting coaching temporarily and returning with a more open and free approach, the speaker emphasizes the power and expansion that comes from relinquishing control. This perspective encourages coaches to fully create with the universe's unfolding events and engage authentically with clients.
Creating Safe Spaces and Encouraging Openness for Transformation
The episode discusses the significance of creating safe spaces for clients to open up and feel secure in coaching relationships. By sharing personal parallels and common human experiences, the speaker emphasizes the importance of normalizing struggles and promoting unconditional positive regard. The approach of highlighting shared human challenges and encouraging self-expression helps clients overcome fear of judgment and fosters a more open and receptive environment for transformative change.
đď¸Episode 19: Embracing Choice, Creativity, and Freedom with Steve Chandler đ§
So first things first - the thumbnail is Midjourneyâs best shot at turning Steve into Merlin (listen to the conversation and youâll get reference), so apologies to Steve if it isnât quite fully him!
As cliched as it may sound, it really is a great honour (for me - Iâll own it!) to have Steve as my first guest on AoE. Steve was a mentor and teacher to me some decade back who truly changed my whole way of relating to life. Steve is an Author, Teacher, Coach and Mindshifter Extraordinaire - you can find his books on Amazon and more about his general goodness at SteveChandler.com.
đ Episode Contents:1. The âI that Chooses
- Steve takes about how he learned to escape his history ad story of self and centre himself in the âI that Choosesâ.
- 12 Step (Alcoholics Anonymous) as a spiritual system that operates beyond the Ego.
2. Trusting Ahead of Time vs. Testing Ahead of Time
- Steve Chandler's emphasis on the idea that trusting ahead of time can shut people down from taking action or enjoying life.
- Chandler promotes the concept of testing instead of trying to trust, citing an example of how jumping into the swimming pool and testing buoyancy led to trust.
3. Keeping It Simple: Creating Agreements and Expectations
- Chandler's belief in keeping things simple for people to understand and act on, emphasizing creating agreements rather than having expectations.
- James Tripp's discussion on the harmonization and fit of distinctions, the black path of letting go and releasing versus the white path of engagement and creation.
4. Creating vs. Reacting: The Power of Choice and Creativity
- Discussion on the distinction between creating versus reacting, emphasizing the power of choice and creativity over victimhood and struggles.
- Importance of agency and how people organize their power in their lives, and Chandler's explanation of the choice to expand from owner versus victim to reaction versus creation for a wider positive context.
5. Creativity and Intuition in Coaching and Life
- Emphasis on not being restrained by rigid methods and rules, and the power of using personal, alive stories in coaching.
- James Tripp's experience of transitioning to a more free and creative way of coaching, citing personal growth and the importance of engaging in the unfolding process.
6. Lifestyle Choices Over Financial Success
- Chandler's discussion of the pressure to constantly aim for higher income and success, emphasizing personal freedom and lifestyle choices over financial success.
- Tripp's experience of feeling pressured to raise his fees and achieve high business success, despite having a comfortable life and personal freedom.
7. Overcoming Struggles and Choosing the Life You Want
- Chandler's past struggles and how he overcame them to choose the life he wanted in the present moment.
- Chandler's freedom from alcohol and drugs through a 12-step program, where he realized he wasn't just a collection of bad memories.
- The distinction between essential self-concept and intentional self-concept in narrative therapy.
8. The Power of Distinctions in Coaching and Simplifying Choices
- Importance of using distinctions in coaching as a way to simplify and empower clients.
- Power of allowing change and not pressuring oneself to change.
- Chandler emphasizes the importance of relaxation, openness, and creativity in enabling change.
9. Overcoming Limiting Beliefs and Trances
- Criticizing the labeling and beliefs that prevent people from realizing their capacity for change.
- The influence of trances and the need to free oneself from restrictive trances.
10. The Unconscious Influence of Culture and Media on Beliefs and Behaviors
- Chandler highlights the unconscious influence of culture, media, and society on people's beliefs and behaviors.
11. Writing in Flow and the Writing Process
- Chandler discusses his approach to writing in flow, emphasizing the importance of deep relaxation, intuition, and impulse during the initial writing process.
- Chandler shares that he focuses on total freedom of expression in the beginning and then edits later to ensure the understanding of the material.
12. Coaching, Communication, and Client Relationship Building
- James Tripp shares that people often come to him for coaching after testing him through his audios, books, and online presence before seeking his coaching services.
- The significance of creating a "mind shift" in individuals to facilitate coaching and avoid the need to convince them to work with him.
- Importance of sharing personal experiences to help clients realize that their issues are common and not unique, allowing them to open up more.
13. Impactful Communication and Writing
- Importance of writing in a way that can be easily understood and relatable, drawing on Chandler's experience as a songwriter.
- Tripp's transition from being a hypnotist to a coach, utilising Chandler's advice to "transcend and include."
As always, I hope you get much goodness from this episode of Agents of Everything - if you so and would like to deepen your engagement, please consider joining the Agents of Everything Nexus - a Live monthly open frame mentoring call plus ongoing license to ask me anything plus access to the nexus resource library (over 270 sessions on creating yourself creator of a life that you love).
All the very best
James Tripp
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