Monocurious E1 - Sue & Jon "A Floating Island of Monogamy in a Sea of Fluidity"
Jan 18, 2023
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Sue & Jon share their unique journey as a monogamous couple embracing independence and communication. They discuss the challenges of navigating relationships within a non-monogamous community, emphasizing trust and building a supportive community. The podcast explores modern monogamy, highlighting the evolving dynamics and benefits of adopting polyamorous values.
Acknowledging triggers in relationships can foster a supportive dynamic.
Choosing conscious monogamy challenges traditional norms in the modern era.
Building trust requires open communication and recognizing trigger states for emotional connections.
Deep dives
Recognizing Triggered States and Shifting Perspectives in a Relationship
It is essential to recognize when one is in a triggered state during a negative cycle within a relationship. By acknowledging this state and shifting perspectives to stand together against the negative cycle instead of fighting each other, partners can foster a more supportive and loving dynamic.
The Birth of Monocurious: Exploring Relationship Dynamics
The Monocurious podcast series was born from reflecting on dating culture and the desire for committed partnership. With a focus on exploring monogamy in the 21st century, individuals are challenging conventional relationship norms by choosing monogamy consciously and adapting it to fit their unique needs and experiences.
Navigating Intimacy and Trust in Monogamous Relationships
Building trust in a monogamous relationship involves consistent actions over time and relies on open communication and vulnerability. Recognizing one's trigger states and creating a safe space with a partner to address challenges can lead to deeper emotional connections and reinforce mutual trust.
Creating a Supportive Community and Balancing Individual Needs
As they prepare to expand their family, Sue and John emphasize the importance of building a supportive community. By investing in diverse relationships and resources, they aim to maintain balance and obtain necessary support, recognizing the need for individual space and shared experiences.
Embracing Diversity in Relationships and Personal Growth
Sue and John advocate for embracing diverse relationship dynamics and experiences to enrich personal growth. They highlight that monogamy can offer a unique pathway for deep exploration, self-awareness, and relationship fulfillment, encouraging individuals to seek diverse perspectives and build a meaningful community for mutual support.
Sue & Jon became exclusive not long after their first date and married exactly one year after they met. When we joined them late last year, they were just six weeks away from having a baby. Despite going down what might seem a very conventional path (getting married, buying a house, having a baby), they are welcoming and understanding of the alternative paths many of their friends have taken. In their own words, they are “a floating island of monogamy in a sea of fluidity." And although they remain monogamous, being in an open community inspired them to allow space for their independence and focus on building trust and communication.
The Monocurious miniseries explores the question: What does monogamy look like in the 21st century? Our relationship dynamics are shifting. Even for people choosing to remain exclusive, monogamy doesn’t look like it used to. Subscribe to the podcast to listen to 3 episodes where you’ll hear from people who are consciously choosing monogamy instead of blindly following convention.
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