Small Things Often Hurt Feelings
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Jul 8, 2020 Do you find yourself getting easily hurt in your relationship? Discover why those feelings may stem from past experiences rather than just current actions. Open communication is key, and learning how to have repair conversations can significantly strengthen your bond. Explore effective strategies to manage those sensitive moments and enhance understanding between partners.
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Hurt Feelings Aren't Proof Of Wrongdoing
- Hurt feelings happen for many reasons and don't automatically mean someone did something wrong.
- No one needs to be blamed because triggers come from past vulnerabilities, not present wrongdoing.
The Quesadilla Trigger Example
- The speaker describes wanting a quesadilla and a partner asking, "Please don't eat that, I need those for dinner."
- That offhand request triggered an immediate hurt reaction and an angry retreat from the room.
Reactions Are Often Past Vulnerabilities
- Reactions often reflect old sensitivities like childhood shame, not the current partner's intent.
- Triggers are vulnerabilities from your past that seep into present moments and color your responses.