Elevator Systems - Bowen Family Systems Theory

S3 Ep9 Kids with Challenges with Devana Weiss

Sep 2, 2025
Devana Weiss, a licensed counselor and clinical supervisor with nearly two decades of experience in Bowen family systems theory, joins the hosts to discuss parenting children with challenges. She highlights the significant impact of parental worry on children and the necessity of maintaining clarity amidst struggles. The conversation includes insights on family dynamics, using analogies like gardening and references from the film 'CODA.' Devana also explores the nuances of selective eating and the collaborative roles of family and professionals in fostering supportive environments.
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INSIGHT

Worry Shapes The Relationship

  • Caregiver worry profoundly shapes a child with challenges and their relationship over time.
  • Devana Weiss says the caregiver's job is to notice intensity, respond steadily, and allow emotional separateness.
INSIGHT

Who Has The Problem?

  • Bowen theory highlights differentiation: who has the problem and where one person ends and another begins.
  • A clear, realistic estimate of self helps families decide who can be strong when tension rises.
ADVICE

Notice And Modulate Your Intensity

  • Notice your sensitivity and intensity when you perceive needs in your child and track your responses over time.
  • Modulate your reactions to be steady enough for the situation rather than driven by immediate anxiety.
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