The podcast episode explores various topics like cheating, sexless marriages, and mismatched libidos. It offers advice on improving consistency in a sex life, collaboration during sex, seeking therapy, setting boundaries, and navigating desire discrepancy in relationships.
When there is a disparity in sexual desires in a relationship, it is important to have open and non-defensive communication to find a solution.
Considering alternative options such as hormone replacement therapy or discussing the possibility of an open marriage can be potential solutions to a discrepancy in sexual frequency.
Deep dives
Wanting a More Active Sex Life
Am I the asshole for wanting to engage with my wife more frequently in our sex life? We have a significant disparity in our sexual desires, with me wanting more intimacy than we currently have. When I bring up the topic, my wife becomes defensive and dismissive, making me feel like it's solely my problem. I have suggested hormone replacement therapy, which has positively impacted my own sex drive, but she has refused to pursue it. I always prioritize her pleasure during our encounters. I have contemplated suggesting an open marriage as a potential solution since I don't want to cheat. Am I wrong for wanting a change in our sexual dynamic?
Communication Issues and Seeking Therapy
In our 12 and a half years of marriage, I have noticed that my wife frequently rejects my sexual advances, both verbally and non-verbally. Whenever I try to discuss the issue, she becomes angry and dismissive, making me feel like it's my fault. I have been open about the positive effects hormone replacement therapy has had on my own sex drive, but my wife has chosen not to pursue it for herself. I always prioritize her pleasure during our encounters. I have even considered suggesting an open marriage as an alternative, as cheating is not an option for me. However, I understand that these conversations require a more nuanced approach and therapy may be beneficial in helping us navigate this issue.
Boundaries and Addressing Discrepancy
Am I the asshole for desiring a more active sex life with my wife? We have been together for almost 16 years, but our sexual encounters occur only once every six to eight weeks. My advances are usually met with rejection, both verbally and non-verbally. When I bring up the subject, my wife becomes defensive and implies that the issue lies with me. I have undergone hormone replacement therapy, which has positively affected my sex drive, but my wife has chosen not to pursue it. I always prioritize her pleasure during our encounters. I have considered proposing an open marriage as a potential solution to our discrepancy. Am I wrong for wanting a change in our sexual frequency?
Navigating Desire Discrepancy
I am experiencing a desire discrepancy in my relationship with my wife of 12 and a half years. We only engage in sexual activity once every six to eight weeks, and my advances are often rejected verbally and non-verbally. When I try to discuss this issue, my wife becomes defensive and suggests that it's solely my problem. I have mentioned the positive effects of hormone replacement therapy on my own sex drive, but she has chosen not to pursue it for herself. I always prioritize her pleasure during our encounters. I have contemplated the idea of opening up our marriage as a potential solution, as I have no intention of cheating. Am I at fault for desiring more frequent sexual intimacy?
From cheating to sexless marriages, we’re back with another juicy Am I the Asshole? episode. Today, Producer Erica and I let you know if you’re being an asshole in your sex life and relationships, answering questions like: AITA for wanting to leave my partner after he cheated, when I cheated first? Or AITA for not wanting my fiancé to talk about sex with my best friend? Tune in to find out and let me know what you think in my socials!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why you should practice new positions after a sex session
How to navigate mismatched libidos
The importance of establishing new goals for a relationship after infidelity
Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita.
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