Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2707: Making Amends is Better Than Making Apologies by Keith Wilson on A Practical Framework for Addressing Past Wrongs
Aug 26, 2025
Explore the essential distinction between making amends and offering mere apologies. Discover how genuine healing requires actions that restore trust, safety, and respect. Dive into personal accountability and the journey toward restitution. Uncover the complexities of making amends in relationships, especially after infidelity, and the critical role of honesty. Reflect on the past to foster deeper connections and truly heal old wounds.
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Amends Repair; Apologies Only Promise
- Making amends is action that repairs damage while apologies are only promises to repair damage.
- Words without change won't restore trust or safety.
Choose Direct Or Indirect Restitution
- Do decide whether you'll make direct or indirect amends and plan concrete restitution for each harm.
- Provide specific corrective actions like paying bills, telling the truth, or showing disciplined behavior.
Father Who Beat His Child
- A father admitted he hit his child, lied about it, and explained his fear-driven motive in a statement of responsibility.
- Keith shows how the father could apply ice to bruises, be available, tell the truth, and model self-discipline as restitution.