The Secret To Building Deep Connected Relationships with Fiona Lukeis

Ever snap at someone and later wonder, "Why did I overreact?"

Last week, my daughter refused breakfast and I felt my pulse spike. I caught myself mid-yell and remembered something my friend (and mentor) Fiona Lukies taught me: "You're not in a relationship with that person—you're in a relationship with your thoughts about them."

That idea changed everything. I paused, asked her what she was really feeling, and we smoothed it out—no yelling, no guilt, just understanding.

Today on the podcast, Fiona joins me to unpack how your thoughts shape every connection you have—with your kids, your spouse, your business partners…even yourself.

Listen in and discover what it really means to be "in a relationship with your thoughts", the difference between loaded thinking (anger, fear, urgency) and fresh thinking (clarity, calm, creativity), how to spot your trigger moments and get over yourself fast, why speaking your truth from a clear mind deepens connection (instead of destroying it), and the one question to ask before you decide to stay or go in any relationship.

If you've ever felt stuck in conflict, talked yourself into staying angry, or wondered how your own mindset could unlock more ease and empathy…this episode is for you.

Hit play now to learn how to navigate your thoughts, transform your relationships, and finally feel understood (and understanding) in every conversation.

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