The podcast discusses the challenges faced by individuals with ADHD and autism when trying to do their best, touching on topics such as executive function challenges, emotional regulation, trauma, and the importance of self-compassion
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Doing Your Best Is Not A Fixed Standard
AuDHD experience makes 'doing your best' complicated because energy and executive function fluctuate.
Spiky profiles and cyclical energy mean peak days don't reflect steady capacity.
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Progress Feels Cyclical Not Linear
Growth often appears linear externally but feels cyclical internally for organic systems.
Healing and skill-building follow spirals, not steady upward lines.
volunteer_activism ADVICE
Stop When You Hit A Wall
Stop and rest when your brain or body signals a wall to avoid injury or burnout.
Recognize bodily signs and honor them before pushing further.
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AuDHD folks have a complicated relationship with the idea of doing our best, because of our spiky profiles and cyclical energy. Also, we often seem to be trying harder than the people around us...whether or not that results in getting anywhere.
There are many reasons that the brain might "hit a wall" and be unable to continue.
Defining our best as "a bit better than average" is one approach (though I haven't convinced my own brain of that one yet).
Some potential questions for reflection:
What does doing your best mean to you? How do you know when you’re doing your best?
How would it feel to know that you’re doing your best most or all of the time?
Did this awaken a critical voice in your mind? Does that feel like your voice or someone else’s? Is this voice actually helping you, and either way, is this the main voice you want to live by?
When have you felt compassion for someone else who is obviously trying their best? This could be a child, or someone in the process of learning something.
Why do you feel driven to do your best, if that’s something you often feel?
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