Happy Place Spencer Matthews: "I lack empathy!" Managing addiction and victim mentality
Nov 17, 2025
In this engaging conversation, Spencer Matthews—an entrepreneur and reality TV star known for his role in Made in Chelsea—discusses his journey from shame around alcohol to embracing endurance challenges. He shares how running marathons changed his perspective, and his upcoming PROJECT SE7EN, where he aims to complete seven Ironman triathlons across all continents in 21 days for mental health awareness. Spencer also reflects on seeking approval from his parents and the joy of fatherhood, emphasizing how channeling addictive tendencies into positive pursuits has transformed his life.
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30 Marathons Cleared Deep Shame
- Spencer describes how the 30 marathons in 30 days transformed his self-image and erased much of his drinking shame.
- Crossing that finish line gave him a tangible sense of achievement after years of feeling like a loser.
Don't Postpone Living
- Spencer says life is a once-off privilege, so delaying adventure risks never truly living.
- He reframed work to focus on projects he loves and that feel meaningful long-term.
City Job Chased Approval Not Purpose
- Spencer recounts working in the City to win parental approval while hating every day of it.
- He copied his high-achieving brother's path despite it not suiting him and felt it was pointless.