MFP 344: From Control to Connection: Disciplining Teens with Heart

Summary

Parenting teens can feel like navigating a storm. Emotions run high and mistakes are inevitable. In this updated reflection on our original 2017 episode, we dive into the art of disciplining teenagers not just to manage behavior, but to raise mature disciples of Christ.

We share what we've learned from parenting our ten kids, what it means to move from control to connection, and how to maintain strong relationships during the most challenging years. Whether you're in the thick of adolescence or preparing for it, this episode offers encouragement, clarity, and practical tools.

Topics include: • Building trust and fostering independence • Avoiding the trap of control or punishment • Communicating values in a way teens can hear • Creating rules that actually work

Couple Discussion Questions

In what ways do we tend to default to control instead of connection when our teens challenge us?

How can we help each other start with our own hearts before reacting to difficult teen behavior?

What opportunities can we create this week to invest in one-on-one connection with our teen(s)?

Are there any household rules we need to revisit or simplify to better serve our teens’ growth?

What does it mean to us to parent for Christian maturity rather than just obedience?