PPP 447 | How to Speak So People Actually Listen, with Michael Chad Hoeppner
Feb 13, 2025
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Michael Chad Hoeppner, author and communication coach, shares powerful insights on mastering effective speaking. He challenges the myth that public speaking is only for a few, emphasizing that everyone engages in daily communication. Hoeppner reveals how filler words like 'um' are just symptoms of anxiety. He promotes practical drills like the GK Lego exercise to enhance delivery and encourages embracing natural speech. Discussing AI's impact, he stresses that the real skill is in connecting authentically with listeners in an increasingly tech-driven world.
Effective communication is essential for everyone, as daily interactions require the same skills as public speaking.
A shift towards an audience-focused approach allows speakers to engage listeners better and enhances communication effectiveness.
Practical exercises like the GK Lego drill can help individuals improve their delivery and confidence in communication.
Deep dives
The Power of Communication in Everyday Life
Effective communication is fundamental to all human interactions, transcending the realm of public speaking. The notion that only professional speakers need communication skills is misleading, as everyone engages in forms of speaking daily, whether in meetings, casual conversations, or social gatherings. Recognizing that every interaction is a form of communication can empower individuals to refine their skills and seek opportunities for improvement. The discussion also highlights the misconception that public speaking is a separate activity; in reality, speaking is an integral part of being human.
Avoiding Public Speaking Traps
Many individuals fall into the trap of underestimating their speaking abilities by categorizing themselves as non-speakers. This self-limiting belief can hinder personal and professional growth, as it prevents individuals from seizing opportunities to enhance their communication skills. The podcast emphasizes that everyone should consider themselves a public speaker because everyday interactions involve the same principles of effective communication. By embracing this mindset, individuals can take proactive steps to improve how they convey their messages.
Rethinking Common Communication Advice
Much traditional communication advice is ineffective and rooted in a mindset that promotes thought suppression, such as 'just be yourself' or 'don't be nervous.' Such phrases can inadvertently focus attention on the speaker's insecurities instead of the audience's needs, ultimately leading to poorer communication outcomes. Instead of following generic advice, the emphasis should be placed on being audience-focused, centering the conversation on understanding and engaging the listeners. This shift in perspective can significantly improve communication effectiveness.
Understanding the Real Essence of Good Communication
Good communication is defined not by the speaker but by the speaker's ability to reach their audience effectively. This other-focused approach emphasizes the importance of actively engaging with listeners to ensure that the intended message is received and understood. Rather than fixating on personal performance, communicators should prioritize the needs and feedback of their audience, which is crucial for genuine connections. This principle liberates individuals from self-doubt and enhances their overall communication skills.
Practical Techniques to Enhance Communication Skills
Various drills and exercises can help individuals improve their communication delivery, such as the GK Lego drill, which encourages speakers to pause and think deliberately during presentations. This exercise highlights the importance of unitasking—focusing on one idea at a time—and allows for mental breaks to process thoughts. Additionally, the concept of 'filler words' like 'um' is reframed as a symptom of deeper communication issues rather than the main problem itself, prompting speakers to concentrate on articulating clear, potent ideas. By integrating these techniques into daily interactions, communicators can develop more confidence and effectiveness.
In this conversation, Andy talks with Michael Chad Hoeppner to discuss his new book Don't Say Um: How to Communicate Effectively to Live a Better Life. The book is packed with practical drills and insights to improve communication skills. Andy and Michael explore common misconceptions about public speaking, the importance of delivery over content, and practical exercises to enhance communication skills to help you become more confident and effective communicators at work and home.
Michael emphasizes that everyone is a public speaker in their daily lives and that good communication is fundamentally about being other-focused.
Want to speak in a way that people actually listen? This episode is for you!
Sound Bites
“You do make a living by speaking.”
"There’s no such thing as public speaking—there’s just speaking."
"If you ever get advice that features the words ‘don’t’ and ‘just’ in a single sentence, you should probably run away from it."
"Filler words aren’t the problem. They’re a symptom."
"AI is about to give us perfect content. The real skill? Delivering it well."
"If every time you speak, you’re trying to sound smart, you’re going to sound dumb."
"Every time you say 'um,' your brain is asking for time. Give it the time—without the 'um'."
"If you can tolerate silence, you’ll always sound smarter."
"The first rule of better posture? Stop thinking about posture."
"If you’re not getting better at speaking, you’re limiting your career without even realizing it."
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
02:16 Start Of Interview
03:52 Why Are We All Professional Speakers?
07:34 What Is Some of the Worst Speaking Advice?
11:09 What is Good Communication?
14:29 Why is Delivery More Important Than Content?