LATE BLOOMERS ARE YOU MAD AT ME? What rejection sensitivity really feels like (and how to deal with it)
Apr 9, 2025
Explore the intricacies of rejection sensitivity and its real-life impacts. Hear personal experiences about the panic triggered by phrases like "can we talk?" and how micro-signals can spiral into larger fears. Discover the connection between childhood wounds, ADHD, and emotional reactions to feedback. The discussion also covers disavowed anger and its projection, revealing how it can damage relationships. Practical strategies like honest communication and therapy tips provide hope for those navigating these emotional challenges.
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Sensitivity Turns Neutral Cues Threatening
- Rejection sensitivity makes neutral cues feel like deep, personal attacks.
- Rox describes it as seeing anger everywhere which triggers intense distress.
Weekly Panic Over Minor Signals
- Rox says she asks Rich "are you mad at me?" about once a week and spirals from tiny signals.
- She narrates the automatic story: I've done something horrendous and I'm in danger.
"Can I Talk To You" Triggers Catastrophe
- Rox cannot tolerate the gap after someone says “can I talk to you” and immediately assumes catastrophe.
- She needs tinycontext like “about dinner” to avoid spiraling.