Attention Different | Adulting with ADHD ADHD Hates Structure, Loves Routine w/Xai Yang (@xaidy_nyc) | Firesides Ep. 06
đź’ˇ Radical acceptance starts with self-love.
What would change if you stopped fighting your ADHD and began accepting it as part of who you are?
In this Fireside Chat, we sit down with Xai Yang, a licensed social worker, advocate, and late-diagnosed ADHDer, who shares his journey from shame and stigma to building a life rooted in radical acceptance. From growing up in a Hmong American community where mental health carried heavy taboos, to finally receiving a diagnosis in 2018, Sai opens up about the long road toward self-acceptance, healing, and advocacy.
🌲This conversation explores the New Year’s tension between resolutions, routines, and relapse, and how ADHD adults can break cycles of shame by embracing identity, compassion, and community.
✨ Highlights ✨
- Why ADHD “loves structure but hates routine” and what to do about it.
- How cultural stigma and late diagnosis shape ADHD identity.
- The concept of “macro invalidation” and how reframing it with affirmations can shift self-talk.
- Why are identity-based habits (from Atomic Habits) more powerful than quick fixes?
- How radical acceptance and healing can turn ADHD into a tool for connection and advocacy.
This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt shame for their ADHD or wondered what true self-acceptance really looks like.
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