Kickstarting Your Child's Learning and Play at Home (with Lisa Griffen-Murphy)
Mar 25, 2020
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In this engaging conversation, Lisa Griffen-Murphy, an acclaimed early childhood educator and play-master, shares her expertise on nurturing independent play. She encourages parents to let go of the pressure to direct their children's learning and highlights the importance of boredom in sparking creativity. Lisa discusses how structured downtime fosters essential life skills and the power of child-led exploration. Her insights help parents embrace a relaxed, less interventionist approach to play, recognizing its vital role in their children's development.
Encouraging children to engage in self-directed play fosters creativity and essential problem-solving skills, alleviating pressure from parents.
Trusting that learning occurs through informal experiences rather than structured activities can enrich children's development and family dynamics.
Deep dives
Embracing Self-Directed Play
Encouraging self-directed play in children is vital for their development, though many parents struggle with this concept. Children often require time to engage in their own play, and it’s important for parents to allow them to experience boredom, as this can foster creativity. Instead of pushing for structured activities, parents should recognize the value in letting children navigate their own interests and come up with ideas independently. This can alleviate parental stress and help children develop essential problem-solving skills by allowing them the freedom to explore.
Redefining Educational Expectations
Parents often feel the need to recreate a structured school environment at home, which can be overwhelming and unnecessary. It is important to understand that learning does not solely occur through formal education but can also happen through informal experiences, like playing outside or engaging with nature. Trusting that children will learn through play and exploration can help alleviate the pressure to provide constant academic stimulation. Recognizing that valuable life skills are developed outside of traditional academic settings can shift the focus from performance-based education to enriching experiences.
The Role of Adult Presence in Play
Children benefit from adult presence during play, but this does not mean that adults must be actively involved at all times. Being a supportive figure in the background allows children to engage deeply with their imaginative play without the pressure of adult intervention. This balance enables children to become more self-reliant and helps reinforce their ability to play independently. Adults can foster this independence by stepping back and letting children lead their play while providing a safe and encouraging environment.
Navigating Parenting Challenges with Flexibility
Parents need to be adaptable and understand that not every moment requires a structured plan or activity. Adjusting expectations to allow for unstructured playtime can enhance the family dynamic and reduce anxiety during hectic times. Proposing small increments of independent play can gradually build a child’s comfort with self-directed activities. This approach not only supports a child's development but also gives parents the opportunity to focus on their own needs and well-being.
Acclaimed early childhood educator and play-master Lisa Griffen-Murphy joins Janet to encourage parents to release themselves from the pressure of making play and learning happen for their kids. Lisa shares from her vast experience facilitating children's play in every environment imaginable. She offers specific, open-ended ideas for inspiring learning through play and assures parents that their kids know instinctively what they’re doing.
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