Exploring the impact of childhood neglect on adult relationships, CPTSD, and the urge to 'help' those who hurt you. Discussion on taking care of yourself in the past versus wanting to take care of a partner now. Addressing a letter from a woman who gives her all to a partner who gives nothing back.
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Growing up with neglectful parents can lead to difficulties in recognizing healthy relationships and tolerating mistreatment.
Neglect from childhood can result in a tendency to excessively care for partners, echoing past self-reliance and seeking gratitude in return.
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Impact of Neglectful Parenting on Relationship Dynamics
Growing up with neglectful parents can lead to difficulties in recognizing healthy relationships. Individuals may tolerate mistreatment and express excessive gratitude due to a lack of understanding genuine care. This neglect can manifest as a tendency to excessively care for partners, even if aloof, echoing past self-reliance.
Navigating Past Trauma in Current Relationships
The podcast explores a listener's journey of self-realization, identifying patterns of neglect endured from a narcissistic mother and subsequent challenges faced. This journey includes attempts to heal without therapy, consequent relationship struggles, and finding solace in a supportive, albeit complex, online relationship.
Addressing Emotional Abandonment and Trauma Responses
The episode delves into responses to emotional abandonment, reflecting on triggers and attachment wounds within relationships. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing personal trauma responses, such as abandonment melange, and offers coping strategies like the daily practice for emotional regulation and healing.
Sometimes neglectful parents make it necessary for kids to figure out EVERYTHING on their own. How to get by, how to get their needs met, how to stay safe. If you grew up like this, I’m going to guess it’s been hard for you to recognize who, among the people you know, really has your best interest at heart. And this shows up in your life relationships where someone mistreats you, but you stay – maybe you even keep saying how grateful you are to have anyone at all to be there for you. And this wound of neglect can also show up as a strange inversion – where in the PAST you took care of everything for yourself. But once you bond with a partner, no matter how aloof or unavailable they are, you keep wanting to take care of everything for THEM. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who gives her ALL to a partner who gives nothing back.