parents aren't perfect, a talk with dr. aliza pressman [video]
Jan 11, 2024
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Today, Emma Chamberlain talks to Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist and host of the podcast 'Raising Good Humans,' about parenting. They discuss the role of instinct and reflection in parenting, different parenting styles, the importance of setting boundaries, listening to your gut, raising good humans while embracing individuality, allowing children to make mistakes, the significance of apologizing to your child, and letting go of parental expectations.
Reflecting on one's own experiences and working through unresolved issues is crucial for becoming a better parent.
The authoritative parenting style, which balances sensitivity and clear boundaries, is generally considered more effective in promoting positive attachment relationships.
When apologizing to your child, acknowledge your mistake, take responsibility, and show your commitment to repair and grow as a parent.
Deep dives
Importance of Reflecting on Parenting
Reflecting on one's own experiences and coming to terms with them is important for becoming a better parent. Understanding one's own upbringing and working through any unresolved issues can lead to more positive attachment relationships with children.
Different Parenting Styles
There are different parenting styles, including neglectful, authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. The authoritative style, which balances sensitivity and clear boundaries, is generally considered more effective in creating a positive attachment relationship and promoting emotional and physical safety.
Finding the Right Co-Parent
Finding a compatible co-parent involves seeking someone who complements your own strengths and weaknesses. Look for someone who is reflective, sets appropriate boundaries, can repair and reconnect after conflict, and aligns with your values and desired outcomes for your child.
Apologizing to Your Child
When apologizing to your child, start by acknowledging your mistake and taking responsibility for your actions. Let them know you are committed to making it right and explain how you will handle similar situations in the future. Apologizing shows your child that everyone makes mistakes and that you are willing to repair and grow as a parent.
Setting Boundaries with Internet Use
Setting reasonable boundaries with internet use is important. Consider limiting screen time in bedrooms, establishing non-negotiable mealtime and bedtime restrictions, and monitoring content to ensure safety and a healthy balance in your child's online experiences.
[video available on spotify] today we're talking about something that many think is not sexy: parenting. this is something that's particularly interesting to me because i want to have kids eventually, so i'm thinking about how i should be preparing myself to be a parent one day. how can i start now? and that's why i'm so excited to be talking to dr. aliza pressman today. she’s a developmental psychologist and host of the podcast, “raising good humans.” her first book comes out in january of 2024, called the five principles of parenting: your essential guide to raising good humans. so i introduce to you, dr. pressman.
find dr aliza pressman's book on her website: https://draliza.com