Self-worth is influenced by four dimensions: security and safety, identity and values, self-confidence through competence, and a sense of belonging.
Reflecting on personal growth and recognizing our progress is crucial for boosting self-confidence and self-worth.
Deep dives
Viewing Pain and Starting from Zero
Many people struggle with low self-worth, feeling like they are not enough. It begins with how we view our pain and experiences, often devaluing them as useless or a waste of time. However, our past is valuable and forms part of our story. Starting from zero is also a common fear, thinking that success only comes with a large following or instant recognition. But everyone starts from zero, and our first attempts may not be our best, but they don't have to be our last.
Four Dimensions of Self-Worth
Self-worth is influenced by four dimensions: security and safety, identity and values, self-confidence through competence, and a sense of belonging. By understanding these dimensions, we can identify which ones may be affecting our self-worth. For example, a lack of security and safety can lead to co-dependency and toxic relationships, while unawareness of our values can cause confusion and decision-making. Identifying the areas that need work allows us to prioritize and develop a holistic sense of self-worth.
Bet on Yourself
Venus Williams' decision to turn down a $3 million sneaker deal at 14 years old was a bet on herself. She believed in her skills, her preparation, and her potential for greater success. Similarly, we should bet on ourselves when we genuinely believe we are ready for more. It's not about blind faith, but rather trusting our process, preparation, and intuition. We shouldn't settle for less than we believe we are worth, and should take calculated leaps of faith when the moment is right.
Reflecting on Personal Growth and Helping Others
Reflecting on personal growth and recognizing our progress is crucial for boosting self-confidence. Rather than seeing our past as a waste of time, we should mine it for lessons, experiences, and strengths. Additionally, helping others who are a few steps behind us can boost our own self-worth. By serving and sharing our experiences, we can build connections, make a positive impact, and realize the value we have to offer to others.
In the journey of self-discovery, we often find ourselves grappling with the nagging question: "Am I enough?"
Life's struggles can weigh heavily on our hearts, especially when we feel inadequate.
But fear not, today we will look deep into building self-esteem and self-confidence.
In the face of doubt and self-limiting beliefs, we shall uncover four distinct types of self-worth that shape our perception of ourselves. Everything we have achieved may seem meaningless at times, however, through this pivotal moment of awakening, we shall uncover the true essence of our purpose and redefine our paths with newfound meaning.
As we navigate life, we will encounter moments of hesitation and indecision, fearing the uncertainty of future steps. Together, we shall cultivate the courage to take that vital first step towards growth and fulfillment.
In this episode, you'll learn:
The type of mindset we should avoid
The reason why our confidence is low
How to improve your self-worth and self-esteem
How to get out of the the struggles that limit you
Let's join hands as we take steps towards stepping forth into the world with renewed purpose and self-assurance.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:02 When you’re stuck with feeling like you aren’t enough, how do you deal with it?
05:38 Life is a struggle especially when you think you aren’t enough
10:01 What happens when you realize everything you’ve done in life is useless?
14:25 Type #1: The sense of security and safety is such an important part of our self-worth
15:53 Type #2: When you know your values, it's easier for you to make decisions.
17:06 Type #3: The self-confidence we experience through competence, a skill, an ability that we have
18:54 Type #4: Do you have a place or space that you feel comfortable and you belong to?
22:48 This is one of the reasons why so many struggle so much
24:29 We keep thinking about taking future steps but we never take the first step
26:20 Here’s how you can do to help boost your self confidence