Betrayal Trauma, Pornography & Sex

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Jan 6, 2022

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INSIGHT

Healthy Sexuality and Moral Focus

Sexuality and sensual pleasure are natural parts of being human and not inherently problematic.
The moral focus should be on how we relate to these impulses, avoiding exploiting others for self-serving desires.

INSIGHT

Pornography as Anxiety Management

People turn to pornography to manage anxiety by seeking certainty and control.
Recognizing impulses allows more deliberate choices rather than being controlled by unconscious habits.

INSIGHT

Empowerment Through Knowledge in Betrayal

Betrayal trauma is profoundly disorganizing, but gaining information empowers wise decisions.
Trust is not the goal; building individual strength and agency creates genuine safety.

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Zach and Darcy Spafford of The Self-Mastery Podcast: End the Porn Struggle interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife and discussed the roots of the issues surrounding unwanted pornography use, betrayal trauma and infidelity. Listen to learn more about:

- The importance of seeing other people as full, complete people in their own right

- Becoming a strong agent in the world by gathering information and owning our choices

- The way vulnerability can lead us to strength and intimacy

- The role self-regulation plays in compulsive behaviors

- A more strength-based model of conversations around unwanted pornography use

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