350: The Magic of Knowing What You Want with Tracey Gee
Jan 14, 2025
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Tracey Gee, a certified leadership coach from Los Angeles and author of "The Magic of Knowing What You Want," shares insights on embracing personal desires for growth. She discusses overcoming barriers that prevent us from voicing our true wants and emphasizes the importance of understanding and acting on our desires. Tracey highlights a practical exercise to help listeners distinguish genuine desires from selfishness, illustrating how clarity through small actions can lead to transformative personal insights.
Embracing personal desires as a sacred emotion fosters authenticity and enhances connections within communities while serving others better.
Effective decision-making hinges on prioritizing curious questions, as they lead to deeper introspection and exploration of genuine desires rather than self-doubt.
Deep dives
The Importance of Knowing What You Want
Understanding desires is crucial for personal growth and authenticity. Many people grapple with the idea that recognizing and pursuing what they want is inherently selfish, leading to confusion and internal conflict. Embracing desires as a path to authenticity can help individuals serve their communities better and connect meaningfully with others. By reframing desire as a sacred emotion, people can open themselves to God's voice and guidance in their lives.
The Power of Questions in Decision-Making
Questions play a vital role in the decision-making process, with the most effective ones prompting deeper introspection and curiosity about one's genuine desires. Primary questions focus on what truly makes an individual come alive, while secondary questions often center around practicality and capability. It's essential to prioritize questions that foster a sense of curiosity rather than self-doubt, allowing for exploration and clarification of desires. This process involves discerning which questions propel individual growth and which ones may hinder progress.
Embracing Action Over Certainty
Many individuals mistakenly believe they must achieve complete clarity before taking action, but genuine clarity often emerges from the experience of acting. Taking small, manageable steps allows people to explore their desires and understand their true fit in various aspects of life. Emphasizing experimentation can alleviate the pressure to have everything figured out, enabling individuals to learn through trial and experience. This shift promotes a more authentic engagement with life, where individuals can adapt and redefine their aspirations based on lived experiences.
Cultivating Abundance Through Mindset
Abundance is often misunderstood as requiring certainty, leading many to avoid pursuing their desires due to fear of failure or financial constraints. By adjusting the perspective to view desires as possibilities rather than unattainable dreams, individuals open themselves to unexpected opportunities and creative solutions. Practical examples, such as a family adapting their vacation plans to fulfill a desire for connection without the financial burden, illustrate this approach. Emphasizing a curious mindset not only inspires personal growth but fosters a supportive environment for others to explore their desires without fear of judgment.
I'm so glad to have Tracey Gee join me today. and her book is called, The Magic of Knowing What You Want: A Practical Guide to Understanding the Wisdom of Your Desires that releases January 28, but you can preorder any time before then and it will arrive on release day. Tracey is a certified leadership coach living in Los Angeles, and her area of expertise lies in strengths-based leadership and she has a true gift of articulating not only what holds many of us back from tapping into our own desire, but also naming a framework for moving us forward toward clarity and our next right thing. I couldn't book her fast enough for the podcast and I'm so glad she agreed to be on the show. I hope you'll listen in.