#381; Gab fundaro; Breaking the Cycle of Self criticism and doubt to rewrite your narrative; the key to Reclaiming your Confidence

In this episode of 100% Real with Ruby, I sit down with Gab Fundaro to dive deep into one of the most pervasive and misunderstood challenges women face today: body image and self-criticism. We uncover how our relationship with our appearance influences everything from confidence at work to our emotional well-being and even physical health. Together, we explore why external changes, like losing weight or changing your hairstyle, don’t always lead to true happiness or improved self-worth. Instead, we focus on actionable strategies for breaking free from societal pressures, reprogramming internal narratives, and aligning with what truly matters. This episode isn’t just about looking good; it’s about living well and finding empowerment beyond the mirror. Tune in to hear the insights, struggles, and solutions that can help you rewrite your story and reclaim your confidence.

Body image profoundly influences not only physical goals but also relationships, confidence, and emotional well-being.

Self-criticism often leads to rigid rules that are difficult to maintain, exacerbating negative self-perception.

Insight: Breaking the cycle starts with challenging negative self-talk and replacing it with constructive narratives. Recognizing this pattern can prevent self-sabotage.

Changes in appearance, such as weight loss or new hairstyles, may bring temporary satisfaction but don't improve body image at a deeper level.

Takeaway: Shifting focus from appearance to internal qualities fosters a healthier self-concept and enduring confidence.

Attempting to control external appearance often stems from an inability to control life circumstances.

Reflection: Building emotional resilience and focusing on values rather than control can create a sense of security and self-acceptance.

Body judgments are learned behaviors, often rooted in cultural and societal expectations.

Actionable Step: Identify and challenge these ingrained beliefs to reprogram your internal dialogue and foster self-acceptance.

Confidence should stem from values and actions aligned with personal goals, not contingent on appearance.

Encouragement: Define what confidence means to you and create actionable steps to achieve it in various life areas.

Weight bias and societal norms create undue pressure to conform, reinforcing the idea that physical appearance equates to worth.

Challenge: Reflect on the societal pressures you’ve internalized and actively reject unrealistic standards.

Recognizing and sitting with difficult emotions without letting them dictate actions fosters psychological flexibility.

Tip: Practice mindfulness and self-compassion to enhance emotional regulation.

Misalignment between actions and values often results in dissatisfaction and reliance on external validation.

Prompt: What small actions can you take today to align with your core values?

Shifting to a neutral perspective helps counter toxic positivity and fosters sustainable growth.

Exercise: Write down neutral thoughts about your body to practice reframing negative self-talk.

Small, consistent actions build confidence and momentum for larger goals.

Tip: Reflect on and celebrate one small win daily to reinforce positive behaviors.

Unpacking the origins of self-judgment and societal expectations allows for intentional, lasting change.

Thought: What beliefs about your body serve you, and which do not?

Strength extends beyond physical fitness to include emotional and mental resilience.

Suggestion: Identify areas where you feel strong outside of the gym and celebrate them.

Establishing boundaries allows time for self-care and fosters healthier relationships.

Action: Dedicate 10 minutes daily to a self-care activity and communicate this need to loved ones.