Now That We're A Family 213: Why Gentle Parenting Is Unbiblical
Here we are once again tackling one of those topics that I think at one point we said we never wanted to talk about. We don’t want to talk about parenting from a “here’s how you do it" perspective because our oldest is six and if our children ever listen to this one day, they know that we were imperfect parents. We love them very much and we want to get better and better at this. That said, there are some things that are very, very wrong in our opinion about gentle parenting.
While we are called to be gentle in parenting as Christians, subscribing to the gentle parenting philosophy is not something that we should be pursuing. Biblical parenting is gentle, but gentle parenting is not biblical. The Bible says man is born into sin. As parents, it is our job to make our children aware of their sin and their need for a Savior. It is also our job to train them up in the nurture and admonition of Him.
These are God’s children. They are given to us to steward. When we are going to an expert and philosophy that is completely godless, it is not going to be neutral. We cannot expect it to be anti-god. Satan wants to take our kids. They are the next generation. He wants to take their hearts and eliminate the authority that God has placed in their lives as a protection, guidance and support to them. There is an agenda behind this and it’s not neutral.
Punishment is love and love is punishment when it is done in an appropriate and loving way. The most valuable gift a child can receive is a parent's love, time and support. Setting boundaries, having clear expectations and consequences, being able to share the Gospel with our children as often as we can, being as consistent as we can as parents in love and not in anger is so important. We need to go to God’s Word and His Scripture and continue to learn.
We pray that the Lord speaks to some of your through this and He continues to grow us as parents!
- Ephesians 6:1-3 - “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.”
- Proverbs 22:6 - “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
- Jeremiah 17:9-10 - “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? I the Lord search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.”
- Hebrews 12:11 - “Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.”
- Proverbs 22:15 - “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.”
- Proverbs 29:17 - “Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.”
- Proverbs 29:15 - “The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”
- Proverbs 13:24 - “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”
- Proverbs 3:11-12 - “My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord; neither be weary of his correction: For whom the Lord loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.”
- Leviticus 5:17 - “And if a soul sin, and commit any of these things which are forbidden to be done by the commandments of the Lord; though he wist it not, yet is he guilty, and shall bear his iniquity.”
- Job 5:17 - “Behold, happy is the man whom God correcteth: therefore despise not thou the chastening of the Almighty:
-
Marriage Maximizer - Build A Masterpiece Marriage - TODAY, June 13 at midnight, enrollment will be closed for this Beta launch. Sign up today!!
Whether you have been married for 30 years, or are just starting out on the adventure of a lifetime, this course is for you!
https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/Marriage-Maximizer
-
Top 5 Tuesday
Join our weekly email list to keep up to date with the highlights of what is going on in our family life.
https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/top-5-tuesday-newletter
-
Looking for more Now That We're A Family resources? We got 'em!
Website: https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nowthatwereafamily/
OUR FAMILY MUSIC ACADEMY: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com
Use coupon code: YOUTUBE for 10% off each month
Homeschool Course: https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/homeschool
Get it All Done Club: https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/get-it-all-done-club
Is your life just too complicated to ever feel peaceful?
Check out Katie's Free Home Management Masterclass:
https://www.nowthatwereafamily.com/get-it-all-done-club