2012: Is There Such A Thing As Planning Too Far Ahead? by Liz Keneski & Taylor Anne Morgan with Luvze on Romantic Relationships
Dec 27, 2023
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Liz Keneski, a researcher, discusses the complexities of discussing future plans in romantic relationships. Their study reveals surprising findings on how pre-engagement conversations about marriage, proposals, and weddings correlate with relationship satisfaction and commitment. They explore whether there is such a thing as planning too far ahead and the potential awkwardness of coming across familiar faces on dating apps during the holiday season.
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Discussing the possibility of marriage before becoming engaged is associated with higher levels of current relationship satisfaction and commitment.
Discussing the specifics of the engagement and wedding before becoming engaged is associated with lower levels of relationship satisfaction and commitment.
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The benefits of discussing the future of a romantic relationship
Discussing the future of a romantic relationship, including the possibility of marriage, can be both exciting and stressful. A study on engagement and weddings showed that discussing the possibility of getting married more frequently before becoming engaged was associated with higher levels of current relationship satisfaction and commitment. However, discussing the specifics of the engagement, such as the proposal and engagement rings, before becoming engaged was associated with lower levels of relationship satisfaction and commitment. Similarly, discussing the wedding before becoming engaged was also associated with lower levels of relationship commitment.
Variability in discussions about future relationship events
Engaged and married individuals reported varying levels of discussion regarding future relationship events. Some couples had never discussed the possibility of marriage before becoming engaged, while others discussed specific details, like the type of engagement rings, very frequently. The study found that the frequency of discussions on these topics did not necessarily correlate with overall relationship satisfaction or commitment.
The value of moving at one's own pace
While discussions about the future can be beneficial for relationship health, it is important for couples to move at their own pace. Not everyone wants to talk about the future to the same degree, and taking an honest approach in expressing oneself can lead to a healthier relationship. Trusting one's own path and having conversations that feel right for each partner can contribute to a positive direction in the relationship.
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Episode 2012:
Liz Keneski and Taylor Anne Morgan's insightful research with Luvze.com delves into the complexities of discussing future plans in romantic relationships. Their study reveals surprising findings on how pre-engagement conversations about marriage, proposals, and weddings correlate with relationship satisfaction and commitment.
"It may also be that talking more about future details of an engagement and wedding before the commitment of an engagement has occurred might accelerate a relationship too quickly, before one or both couple members are ready to move forward toward marriage."