Connect2 How Do We Grow in Intimacy as a Couple?
Dec 17, 2025
In this engaging conversation, Raymond and Jenny Teo, co-founders of Ten Butterfingers and seasoned marriage educators, share insights from their 25-year journey. They tackle the impact of Hollywood on intimacy expectations and discuss why couples often shun conversations about sex. They redefine intimacy as a blend of communication and physical closeness, emphasizing humility and continuous learning. The Teos encourage engaged couples to seek mentorship and highlight that intimacy is a lifelong journey requiring patience and open dialogue.
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Intimacy Is Multi-Dimensional
- Intimacy spans emotional, physical, mental and spiritual dimensions beyond just sex.
- Focusing only on physical intimacy creates a distorted and pressured expectation.
Wedding Night Sleep Misunderstanding
- Raymond fell asleep on his wedding night and Jenny worried she wasn't attractive enough.
- They now laugh about it and use the story to illustrate mismatched expectations after wedding fatigue.
Hollywood Distorts Sexual Expectations
- Hollywood shapes unrealistic standards of long, lustful sex that many compare themselves to.
- Measuring sexual success by duration or orgasm fosters doubt and sets couples up for failure.