395: Dr. Marisa Porges - How To Raise Bold, Courageous, & Resilient Women

Dec 7, 2020

Dr. Marisa Porges, head of the Baldwin School and a former U.S. Navy officer, shares her insights on raising bold and resilient young women. She discusses the vital importance of mentorship and the unique challenges women face in business. Marisa offers practical tips for effective networking, emphasizing preparation and purpose. She also highlights the significance of adaptability and self-advocacy for young girls, advocating for a coaching approach from parents to build confidence. Her experiences inspire listeners to empower the next generation.

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Intro

00:00 • 4min

Empowering Young Women Through Leadership Education

03:45 • 2min

Tactical Tips for Successful Networking Coffee Meetings

06:12 • 2min

Navigating Mentorship and Adaptability

08:10 • 29min

Empowering Resilience in Young Women

36:50 • 14min

Empowering Teenage Girls: A Parenting Guide

50:26 • 7min

The Path to Self-Aware Leadership

57:45 • 3min

What Girls Need

How to Raise Bold, Courageous, and Resilient Women

Dr. Marisa Porges

In 'What Girls Need,' Marisa Porges combines compelling research, personal stories, and practical advice to address key skills and traits essential for girls to succeed. The book delves into topics such as harnessing girls' voices, boosting self-esteem, and fostering skills like competitiveness, collaboration, empathy, and adaptability. Porges shares anecdotes from her impressive career and her role as Head of School at an all-girls school, highlighting how girls can use their unique differences as advantages and how to support their development effectively.

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David G. Hamilton

Welcome to Management

Stanley McChrystal

Ryan Hawk

In 'Welcome to Management', Ryan Hawk offers practical, actionable advice and tools designed to help new managers transition successfully. The book is based on a three-part framework: 'Lead Yourself', 'Build Your Team', and 'Lead Your Team'. Hawk draws from his own experience and over 300 interviews with forward-thinking leaders to provide insights on building skills, developing team culture, and setting clear strategies. The book includes case studies, personal stories, and data-backed advice to help high performers make the leap to management with greater ease and effectiveness.

Team of Rivals

The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln

Doris Kearns Goodwin

This book is a multiple biography centered on Abraham Lincoln's mastery of men and how it shaped the most significant presidency in the nation's history. It explores how Lincoln, despite being a one-term congressman and prairie lawyer, rose to become president by incorporating his rivals—William H. Seward, Salmon P. Chase, and Edward Bates—into his cabinet. The book details Lincoln's extraordinary ability to understand and empathize with others, which enabled him to create an unusual but effective cabinet. It also delves into the challenges Lincoln faced, including incompetent generals, hostile congressmen, and the internal dynamics of his cabinet, highlighting his political genius and managerial skills[1][3][5].

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Ep #395: Dr. Marisa Porges

Notes:

Keys to a good coffee meeting with someone:
- Be early
- Find a quiet spot
- Know your order before you get there. Don't make it too complex
- Have a goal for the meeting. Know what you want to get out of it
"You don’t have to be a feminist to care about these lessons, nor do you need a daughter or a sister. You just have to know a girl or young woman and care about her future."
The differences for a woman vs. a man in business:
- Women have fewer mentors and sponsors
  - "You need to seek mentors on a regular basis"
  - "Men need to mentor women" -- "Make room for women mentees"
  - What should the man who is nervous to mentor a woman do?
    - Meet in a public place
    - Talk about business
Key to excellence: The ability to adapt
- Marisa joined the Navy after High School. She was inspired by the movie Top Gun
- She got in a bad car accident and had to be rescued by the jaws of life
- She had to shave her head in the Navy
- "Our reality forces us to adapt. We change jobs 4x more than our parents did."
How to be adaptable?
- Be open to pushing yourself to new environments
  - Test yourself in a new environment. Don't always set up for the perfect environment
  - Do something differently -- Test your boundaries
How to be authentically empathetic?
- The platinum rule -- Treat others as they want to be treated (not how you want to be treated)
- Be vulnerable, open, and real
- While interviewing terrorists in Yemen, Marisa got them to open up by authentically opening up first
  - "Be conscious about when and how you're vulnerable. It can't be too often. Monitor your emotions."
Look for go for it moments... Learn to rebound from failure and understand the key takeaways from them. Be able to deal with uncertainty.
Marisa shares a story about a parent of one of her students. Marc. His daughter was going through an issue at school. Marc said, “I went into Dad mode and said should I call the school? Talk to a teacher? —- This is a terrible way to respond as the dad of a daughter. A dad needs to "coach from the sideline." Help your daughter practice self advocacy. Ask them questions, be curious. Help your daughter find her voice and speak up. One easy example to practice -- "When you go out to eat, always have your daughter order her food. When you call to order a pizza, have your daughter do it."
Marisa worked in the White House and needed to become an excellent communicator to prepare for her conversations with The President. How did she do this? "Practice, practice practice."
Excellence:
- How we learn from failure and bounce back... What happens next?
- It's always about the others in your life. Who are you surrounding yourself with?
- Small things make a big difference