The Psychology of your 20s 166. Fantasy bonding - is it love or delusion?
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Feb 2, 2024 Explore the intriguing phenomenon of fantasy bonding, where attachment to ideals overshadows reality. Discover how childhood influences shape these romantic illusions and learn why loneliness can lead to poor relationship choices. The discussion offers strategies for maintaining healthy, realistic connections by identifying red flags and defining personal non-negotiables. Gain insights into navigating romantic interactions with intention and honesty while fostering personal independence. Don't let the fantasy cloud your perception!
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Fantasy Bond Origins
- Fantasy bonding originates in childhood, creating an idealized view of parents for safety.
- This defense mechanism can persist into adulthood, impacting romantic relationships.
Adult Fantasy Bonds
- Fantasy bonds in adult relationships create an illusion of connection, not based on reality.
- This delusion can stem from potential, ignoring incompatibility and red flags.
Jemma's Personal Anecdote
- Jemma shares a personal anecdote of becoming attached to someone's potential after a long-term relationship.
- This led to ignoring red flags and toxic hope due to emotional vulnerability.
