Elevator Systems - Bowen Family Systems Theory

S3 Ep10 Divorce with Dr. Carrie Collier

Sep 9, 2025
Dr. Carrie Collier, a seasoned researcher and therapist specializing in Bowen Family Systems Theory, joins hosts Dixie Vandersluys and Katie White to explore the complexities of divorce. They discuss the importance of understanding family history and patterns during marital changes. Dr. Collier highlights how emotional fusion in a marriage can reflect separation intensity and emphasizes personal growth opportunities that arise during divorce. The conversation includes practical advice on utilizing coaches and maintaining communication to support family dynamics.
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INSIGHT

Divorce As A Symptom Of Family History

  • Bowen theory reframes divorce as a symptom pointing to earlier family patterns and history.
  • Studying what preceded marital symptoms reveals personal roles and repeated multigenerational patterns.
ADVICE

Ask What You Want To Learn

  • Ask yourself what you want to learn about yourself when considering divorce.
  • Use therapy or coaching to focus on self-differentiation rather than only blaming the other person.
INSIGHT

Triangles Multiply And Intensify

  • Triangles proliferate during divorce, drawing in lawyers, mediators, friends, and family.
  • Pre-existing triangles often shift or intensify around custody, money, and loyalties.
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