Criticism, defensiveness, and emotional withdrawal can become major roadblocks, making the journey toward a fulfilling relationship seem almost unattainable. How do couples navigate these natural challenges and cultivate a deeper, more enduring connection?

In this episode, listeners will discover practical tools and mindful practices intended to transform criticism into connected communication. By exploring specific appreciation techniques, scheduled sharing practices, and innovative exercises like "caring and sharing" sessions, couples can nurture a safer emotional environment. With insights into balancing playfulness with constructive dialogue and creating conflict-free zones, this episode aims to equip partners with the skills needed to cultivate lasting intimacy and emotional security in their relationships.

Warren Farrell, PhD, has coached couples and psychologists worldwide in couples’ communication for the past 30 years. His popular course is "Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Art and Discipline of Love."

Dr. Farrell has been chosen by the Financial Times of London as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages, and include The New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, international bestseller The Myth of Male Power, and 2018's The Boy Crisis. His previous book on couples’ communication, Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, was a selection of the Book of the Month Club.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode

06:20 From gender awareness to relationship transformation: A journey of advocacy and education.

10:50 Overcoming defensive listening with caring practices.

17:45 The importance of creating a safe environment for couples to handle criticism by regulating their nervous systems.

22:41 Cultivating deep connections through specific appreciation and conflict management.

32:48 How partners can effectively respond to critical comments while prioritizing thoughtful communication.

39:23 Enhancing relationship dynamics through awareness and accountability.

45:58 The importance of play and teasing in strengthening couple dynamics.

Mentioned

Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Seven Secrets to Lifelong Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say: Destroying Myths, Creating Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Why Men Are the Way They Are: The Male-Female Dynamic (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The Myth of Male Power (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Why Men Earn More (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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