The Libido Fairy Podcast #116: Struggling To Get In The Mood? Ask These 5 Questions
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Dec 2, 2025 Discover the intricacies of arousal as Hannah explores the balance of sexual excitation and inhibition in the body. She illustrates the gas-and-brake metaphor, explaining why some stimuli might not work if inhibition is high. Learn about the physiological differences in women's arousal timing and how to create an ideal environment for intimacy. Plus, uncover the importance of understanding your specific turn-ons with a fun quiz. Perfect for anyone looking to enhance their connection and intimacy!
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Student's Turn-On Struggle
- Hannah describes a student who couldn't get turned on and either shut down or gave in to her partner.
- That cycle reduced her desire because she stopped experiencing pleasure during intimacy.
Two Systems Drive Arousal
- Hannah explains two systems operate together: sexual excitation (SES) and sexual inhibition (SIS).
- She compares trying to turn on while stressed to pressing the gas while your foot is on the brake.
Arousal Is A Spectrum
- Arousal exists on a spectrum rather than a binary on/off state.
- Hannah highlights that women typically need far more time than men to reach peak arousal due to different physiological processes.