S3 Ep 38: Big Little Feelings - The Toddler Mamas are here!
Sep 22, 2023
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Parenting experts Kristin and Deena answer listener questions about toddlers, discussing topics such as power struggles, hitting, biting, time-outs, feelings, talking about death, and bath time struggles.
Setting boundaries and calmly explaining expectations can teach toddlers appropriate behavior during power struggles.
Using clear language and acknowledging their feelings of sadness can help toddlers understand and cope with the concept of death.
Deep dives
Relevance of Power Struggles with Toddlers
Toddlers have a natural desire for control and power, which can lead to power struggles during activities such as bath time or tooth brushing. Staying calm and confident is essential in these situations. Instead of engaging in power struggles, setting boundaries and calmly explaining the expectations can help teach toddlers appropriate behavior.
Discussing Death with Toddlers
Talking to toddlers about death can be challenging but important. It is essential to use clear language, using terms like 'death' and 'died.' Keeping explanations high-level and age-appropriate, letting them know they won't see the person again, and acknowledging and validating their feelings of sadness is crucial. While avoiding metaphors like 'sleeping' can prevent confusion or fear.
Addressing Aggression and Hitting in Toddlers
Aggression, such as hitting, is common in toddlers. It's important to set boundaries calmly and consistently, reinforcing that hitting is not acceptable while focusing on redirecting their behavior. Model emotional regulation and teach alternative coping skills after the child has calmed down. Understanding that toddler aggression is part of brain development and avoiding punishment-based discipline is key.
Recognizing the Need for Emotional Self-Care as a Parent
It's important for parents to acknowledge and address their own big emotions when dealing with toddler behavior. Recognizing and validating one's feelings, taking breaks when needed, forgiving oneself when mistakes happen, and working on repairing relationships with children can foster healthy emotional development for both parent and child.
This episode originally aired in December of 2020.
Big Little Feelings duo Kristin and Deena are answering listener questions about toddlers. Topics include power struggles, hitting, biting, time-outs, feelings, talking about death and bath time struggles.
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