Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Baffled by "Bad" Behavior? Do This First

Aug 13, 2024

In this discussion, expert Janet shares insights on navigating children's challenging behaviors. She addresses alarming parenting concerns, like kids role-playing as 'bad guys' and showing aggression. Janet emphasizes the importance of empathy and understanding underlying emotional needs. Through her guidance, parents learn to foster open communication and create a trusting environment. She also highlights how recognizing and validating feelings can help manage 'sneaky' behavior, transforming confusion into connection.

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Quick takeaways

Understanding the underlying emotions behind children's behavior is essential for fostering trust and communication in parenting.

Role play in children, like acting as a 'bad guy', can be a healthy expression of their feelings and desire for control.

Deep dives

Understanding Children's Behavior

Recognizing and interpreting children's behavior is crucial for fostering a trusting relationship between parents and their kids. It's important for parents to meet their children at their level, showing acceptance and curiosity towards their actions rather than simply disallowing them. For instance, when a child sneaks food, identifying the message behind their behavior—such as seeking attention or expressing feelings—can be more beneficial than issuing immediate reprimands. This approach highlights the need for parents to reassure their kids of their unconditional support, creating a safe space for children to express their thoughts and emotions.

Intro

2min

The Key to Understanding Children's Behavior

3min

Understanding Sneaky Behavior and Role-Playing in Children

15min

Understanding Children's 'Bad' Behavior Through Empathy and Curiosity

2min

Understanding Toddler Behavior Through Empathy

6min

When our kids' behavior seems negative or inappropriate, we know we should disallow it. But what if the behavior continues? Or goes from bad to worse? What is our child needing from us or telling us that we're missing? There's often a simple, yet easy to overlook, answer. In this episode, Janet responds to notes from parents who have become alarmed by their kids' recent behavior. One child seems hooked on playing that he's a "bad guy" and becomes physically aggressive. Another tells his parents he wants to hurt them. A third is sneaking food and even medicine. These parents are unerringly patient and empathetic, but nothing seems to work. One parent writes: “It's been getting more intense over the past several months, and I really want it to stop, but I don't know how. Am I doing something wrong?” Janet has an idea for what they may be missing, and she explains how it applies in each of these families' situation.

Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.

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