RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery 145 - Comparison and Feeling Chosen After Betrayal
Dec 3, 2025
The podcast dives into the emotional turmoil of feeling unchosen after betrayal and the struggle against comparison. Kylene shares her inspiring journey towards self-acceptance, emphasizing the importance of choosing oneself first. They discuss practical healing tools like therapy and EMDR, highlighting mutual recovery's role in strengthening relationships. Courageous conversations and consistent actions are framed as vital for rebuilding trust and connection. The hosts remind listeners that prioritizing healing can lead to profound relational change.
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Comparison Is A Sticky Trauma Trigger
- Comparison becomes a "sticky trigger" after initial trauma when certain wounds keep resurfacing.
- Kylene explains these triggers remain frequent until targeted healing reduces their intensity.
Behavior Fills A Function, Not Always A Lack
- The betrayed often ask what the addict got that they didn't, but lack in the betrayed isn't always the cause.
- Patrick emphasizes addicts must identify what the behavior provided for them independently.
Choose Your Own Healing First
- Do your own healing work so you can be okay independent of your partner.
- Use therapy, EMDR, and emotional processing to build self-acceptance and resilience.
