Episode 141: Seven Signs of Emotional Abuse (A Relationship Series, Part Four)
Aug 29, 2023
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This podcast explores the signs and nuances of emotional abuse in relationships, highlighting seven warning signs. It addresses the importance of understanding the difference between expressing negative emotions and verbal abuse. It also discusses the tactics used to isolate victims and the signs of feeling trapped in an abusive relationship. Additionally, it emphasizes the qualities of a healthy marriage and offers an assessment to identify significant issues.
Recognizing signs of emotional abuse, such as extreme moodiness and excessive control, can help individuals navigate abusive relationships.
A brief assessment can evaluate the presence and severity of emotional abuse, providing a guide for seeking support and finding appropriate assistance.
Deep dives
Identifying Emotional Abuse in Relationships
Emotional abuse can manifest through extreme moodiness, dysregulated emotions, and irascibility, which may be influenced by mental illness or personality disorders. It is important to assess the nature and quality of communications to distinguish between healthy criticism and verbal abuse. Isolation, unreasonable jealousy, and excessive control over personal activities and relationships are signs of abuse. A lack of privacy, where one's inner world is invaded, erodes the sacredness of an individual's dignity. Feeling constantly on edge and walking on eggshells is indicative of an abusive environment. The belief that one is trapped and responsible for all the problems in a relationship can contribute to a sense of disempowerment. Recognizing these signs and seeking support can help individuals navigate abusive relationships.
Understanding Emotional Abuse Assessment
Using a brief assessment, one can evaluate the presence and severity of emotional abuse in a relationship. Factors such as extreme moodiness, verbal abuse, isolation, lack of privacy, constantly walking on eggshells, feeling trapped, and self-blame can be scored on a scale to gauge the overall dynamics. A higher score may indicate a need to seek professional help and support. However, context and other life circumstances should also be considered when interpreting the assessment. This evaluation acts as a guide for open communication and finding appropriate assistance to address abusive behaviors.
Seeking Help and Finding Hope
Recognizing emotional abuse does not imply a failure of the path to sanctity or a marriage. Understanding the sacredness of one's inner world and the necessity of healthy boundaries is crucial. Seeking assistance and support for both parties involved can reveal potential solutions and provide a path towards healing. Importantly, the goal is not to solely change oneself to fix the relationship, but to foster personal growth and holiness. By acknowledging the signs, reaching out for help, and leaning on the graces offered through espousal, individuals can rediscover hope and navigate challenging relationships with a focus on personal and spiritual development.
Welcome to Episode 141 of the Being Human Podcast: Seven Signs of Emotional Abuse (A Relationship Series, Part Four)
In this week’s episode, Dr. Greg continues the series on relationships, this time exploring aspects of emotional abuse in relationships while highlighting seven warning signs that can help you know when it’s time to get support.
Highlights from the episode:
Emotional abuse as being on a spectrum and the need for understanding nuances of what it looks like in individual relationships;
The seven signs of emotional abuse as guideposts for discerning what difficulties in your relationship mean;
Distinguishing between expression of negative emotions and verbal abuse;
A vocation to marriage (or the discernment of a relationship leading towards marriage) as good insofar as it serves our relationship with God;
Our capacity to have a deep interior experience of relationship between ourselves and God as part of our dignity as humans;
How the failure of a marriage does not equal the failure of one’s pursuit of sanctity;
Clarification around the question of whether it is wrong to refuse the request of a spouse to engage in something that is sinful;
The difference between tiptoeing around delicate issues with your spouse vs. a relationship permeated with a fear of bringing up any topic;
How our brains can come up with unrealistic and irrational ways of solving our problems as part of our survival instinct;
An underlying sense of feeling trapped as a result of repeated exposure to abusive treatment in a relationship;
Distinguishing between what’s proper for a therapist to hold vs. holding the whole emotional weight of your spouse.
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