Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

Ep 224: Boundaries, Abandonment, and Personal Growth

Jul 10, 2024

This conversation delves into the struggles of setting boundaries amid fears of abandonment, highlighting how these fears can lead to negative responses in relationships. The hosts dissect the difference between accountability and blame, emphasizing that a partner's lack of capacity doesn't equate to a lack of care. They navigate attachment wounds and personal growth, advocating for self-reflection to foster healthier interactions. Ultimately, they encourage embracing change and awareness to enhance relationships in meaningful ways.

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Understanding that boundaries stem from personal needs rather than control can transform relationship dynamics and emotional responses.

Recognizing deep fears of abandonment helps individuals cultivate self-acceptance, reducing the need for control in relationships.

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Intro

2min

Navigating Boundaries and Identity After Change

2min

Navigating Attachment, Identity, and Personal Growth

3min

Navigating Relationship Complexities

11min

Understanding Boundaries in Relationships

9min

Exploring Codependency and Audience Engagement

3min

In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we address listener questions around boundaries and dealing with significant changes in your relationships. We discuss themes around abandonment, setting boundaries, and accountability vs blame in relationships.

What You’ll Gain from this Episode:

✨How a fear of abandonment can make setting and maintaining boundaries challenging/unclear, often leading to negative responses from others

✨The importance of accountability vs blame in relationships, and not personalizing others’ actions

✨Distinguishing between someone’s capacity to show up in a relationship and their desire to do so, and that a lack of capacity doesn’t necessarily mean a lack of care

✨How controlling behaviors stem from deep-seated fears of abandonment and emphasize the need for self-reflection and personal responsibility to take accountability in relationships and foster healthier relationships

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