Dr. John Delony - The Secret Solution to Managing Anxiety, Fear and Trauma

Sep 3, 2020

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SO MANY PEOPLE ARE STRUGGLING WITH THEIR MENTAL HEALTH!

Do you ever question yourself as to why the things you have experienced in the past happened to you, and what you could've done to prevent them from happening?

Have you always wanted to meet someone who can pat you on the back and tell you the exact things you need to do to become a better version of yourself?

My guest today is Dr. John Delony. He is a leading voice on relationships and emotional wellness. The newest Ramsey personality. He worked for two decades in crisis response and as a senior leader at multiple universities, and he holds two PhDs -- one in counseling and the other in higher education.

Just like normal people, he also has been through the dark days of his life, overcame all of them, and now helping other people to do the same.

What's John’s journey behind being the newest Ramsey personality?

He lived in Texas every day in his life working at colleges and universities. He was a high school teacher, and then he took a job at a university in Nashville. And Dave has his senior leadership team. John gave a talk to a group of parents and students and Dave’s executive vice president was in the audience dropping their daughter off at the school, and they knew they were looking for additional people. And she just said, “That's the guy.” pointing to John.

What does Dr. John think about fear?

When it comes to fear, the one thing that served John well is understanding that every brain cell in the body has one job and that's to get to tomorrow.

So we need to always be remembering that the fear scans the fear monitor that's going on everywhere.

And if we don't actively seek to get other inputs, or put that in its rightful place, then it can take over everything. They won't kill us. It will just lead to chronic stress and isolation, and loneliness.

How can loneliness affect a person?

It will kill you. Dr. John stated some facts from American Medical Association about how loneliness can kill a person.

What does Dr. John say about the kids/teenagers who had trauma when they were young?

Five year old kids should do nothing, but be five.

Kids have no ability to regulate themselves. They do it against other people. That's when they grew up in stressful chaos.

ADHD is not a disease. It's not a brain malfunction. That is your brain doing what it needs to do to protect itself at the moment.

And then there goes the anxiety, which is just the alarm system. An example of this is a house that's on fire and we spend so much energy trying to turn the alarm off and not addressing the fact that the house is on fire.

What kind of steps should a person take to make sure they're coming out as a better version of themselves?

Make a counseling appointment.
A statement to yourself in the mirror, “I want to get better and I will get better.”
You got to look in the mirror and say, “I'm a person of value, I'm worth getting better.”
Connection -- true, vulnerable relationships with God, with your community, with yourself.

Tune in to this episode. I am sure you’ll learn a lot from this awesome guy. He will give answers to some of the questions you didn’t know you wanted to know about.

Connect with Dr. John Delony:

Instagram: instagram.com/johndelony

YouTube: Dr. John Delony YouTube

Website: https://www.johndelony.com/

Podcast: The Dr. John Delony Show

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