Delian Asparouhov and Nadia Asparouhova on Building a Relationship, Family, and Legacy

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Feb 15, 2025

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Nadia Asparouhova

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Delian Asparouhov

Delian Asparouhov, founder of Varda Space, and Nadia Asparouhova, a thoughtful writer on relationships, share their unique insights on love and family. They discuss the balance between communication and trust, emphasizing that sometimes overcommunication can be counterproductive. Humorous anecdotes about a mattress mix-up highlight the importance of clear communication in relationships. They also reflect on the significance of compatibility in long-term relationships and the joys and challenges of parenthood, revealing how personal growth evolves alongside raising children.

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ADVICE

Overcommunication

Focus on putting less effort into overcommunication.
Trust your partner and avoid over-analyzing every little thing.

ANECDOTE

Mattress Money

Delian and Nadia discuss a past argument about selling a mattress.
Delian sold Nadia's old mattress without her knowledge, leading to a disagreement about the profits.

INSIGHT

Baseline of Trust

A baseline of trust and excitement is key in a successful relationship.
Choose a partner with similar values to minimize the need for constant work.

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Nadia's writing: https://nadia.xyz/

Delian's site: https://delian.io/

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RECOMMENDED PODCAST:

Check out Modern Relationships, where Erik Torenberg interviews tech power couples and leading thinkers to explore how ambitious people actually make partnerships work. This season's guests include: Delian Asparouhov & Nadia Asparouhova, Kristen Berman & Phil Levin, Rob Henderson, and Liv Boeree & Igor Kurganov.

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1786227593

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5hJzs0gDg6lRT6r10mdpVg

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ModernRelationshipsPod

HIGHLIGHTS FROM THE EPISODE:

Delian and Nadia met in San Francisco, where Delian quickly pushed for commitment while Nadia was initially intrigued but uncertain about his intense personality.
They built their relationship on minimal but direct communication, believing that over-communication can create problems where none exist.
Their careers grew alongside their relationship, with both valuing some shared context in tech while pursuing different interests.
Having their first child changed their dynamic from independence to necessary schedule coordination, though they work to maintain their individual pursuits.
Delian advocates for men having children younger to grow alongside their careers, while Nadia emphasizes women should have time to find themselves first.
The couple balances ambitious careers with family life, seeing their domestic world as an expanding universe rather than a limitation.
They approach conflicts with a "short memory" philosophy, choosing not to overanalyze small issues and accepting that some days will have tension.