What happens when a butch lesbian who’s been on testosterone 18 years realizes she wants back into womanhood? Whatever it is, prepare for a tidal wave of masculinized women about to do the same. Can women accept women who look like men as their own? How many masculine visual cues (facial hair, baldness) can/will/should other women tolerate? Is this uncomfortable liminal situation the fault of (de)transitioners themselves, or is it everyone’s problem now? Aaron Kimberly discusses her own experiences post-T, including: irreversibility, male-passing forever, the crisis narrative of detransitioners, homophobia fatigue, and insensitive urinal jokes. Plus: turbo-butches, pink bows, the abstract vs the practical, giggling vs belly laughs, tiny heads, symbolic gestures, metoidioplasty, mental health, bowing out of groups, lesbian fashion compliance, Vancouver weirdos, fuzzy Birkenstocks, and elusive but desperately needed NON-affirming healthcare.

Links:

Aaron Kimberly on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@aaron.kimberly

Aaron Kimberly substack: https://aaronkimberly.substack.com/

Aaron Kimberly twitter: https://x.com/Aaron_GDAC

Genspect Lisbon conference: https://genspect.org/the-bigger-picture-lisbon/

LGB Alliance: https://lgballiance.org.uk/conference/

LGBT Courage Coalition: https://www.lgbtcourage.org/

Aaron Kimberly playing the banjo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLbUOie5y7k&ab_channel=AaronKimberly

Rainbow Connection: https://youtu.be/WS3Lkc6Gzlk?si=jNqw-7J2pLuiH5ya

Aaron Webster: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aaron_Webster

“She Look Like A Man”: https://youtu.be/b7NrJqV7i2k?si=oRoJhbtkr2psUeN4