MOMENT 9: Unlock Likeability: The Secret to Stop People Interrupting You | Vanessa Van Edwards
Jul 1, 2024
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Vanessa Van Edwards, an interpersonal expert and bestselling author, shares tips on how to be heard and perceived as more competent and likeable. Topics include bookending statements, using gestures effectively, checking voicemail, avoiding question inflection, sales mistakes, and gaining respect in any setting.
Using clear structure like finger counts can convey competence and prevent interruptions.
Ending statements firmly instead of using a questioning tone enhances perceived competence and engagement.
Deep dives
Empowering Yourself in Conversations and Meetings
When feeling consistently interrupted in meetings or conversations, it can be challenging and disheartening. It's crucial to have compassion for yourself in such situations and acknowledge that your feelings are valid. If attempts to regain respect or stop interruptions fail, it might signify being around the wrong people. Practically, when speaking, provide a clear structure like using finger counts for key points to convey competence and prevent interruptions.
Harnessing Vocal Cues for Confidence and Likability
Vocal cues play a pivotal role in conveying confidence and likability. Research indicates that listeners assess confidence levels within mere seconds of hearing someone speak. Emotions significantly impact vocal quality, with happiness notably enhancing likability. Understanding the power of vocal cues, such as ending statements firmly instead of using a questioning tone, can profoundly influence perceived competence and engagement in conversations and presentations.
The Impact of Vocal Cues on First Impressions and Success
Vocal cues can significantly influence first impressions and success, as demonstrated by real-world examples from the TV show Shark Tank. The story of Ring's founder highlights how vocal cues, like using a questioning inflection on statements, can inadvertently undermine competence. This phenomenon can lead to doubt and scrutiny from listeners, impacting how ideas are perceived and received. Being mindful of vocal nuances and avoiding common pitfalls, such as asking rather than stating, can enhance credibility and effectiveness in communication and presentations.
Tired of being interrupted? Want to exude more confidence and competence?
In this moment, Vanessa Van Edwards, an interpersonal expert and bestselling author, teaches us the subtle communication cues that can help you be heard and perceived as more competent and likeable in every conversation.
Press play to learn: the power of bookending your statements, how to use gestures to increase the impact of your words, why you need to check your voicemail RIGHT NOW, how to avoid the ‘question inflection’, the subtle mistake that poor salespeople make, and the best cues to gain respect in any setting.
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