Life Coaching with Christine Hassler 07: How breakups and endings lead to breakthroughs
Do you know that every challenge you face presents an amazing opportunity for healing and growth? That is why I am so passionate about Expectation Hangovers - because they are doorways to transformation.
We do not want to relate to Expectation Hangovers as victims because it prevents us from leveraging the learnings! Disappointment happens FOR you, not TO you.
Expectation Hangovers teach us: 1. Control is an illusion 2. Our comfort zone is a trap 3. True fulfillment comes from inside 4. The Universe does not punish us
My call with Nadine is about overcoming the Expectation Hangover of a job loss and breakup We explore why we put pressure on ourselves to not make mistakes and how our past is able to influence us even though we may not recognize it.
Remember, if you point your compass towards spirituality and honor your feelings, you can use your soul’s inner wisdom to learn to love and to heal yourself. The door of opportunity exists for you to heal and transform after you experience an Expectation Hangover.
Consider/Ask Yourself: What am I learning? What am I healing? What is my outer experience teaching me about my inner reality? Can I relate to putting a lot of pressure on myself? Do I think there is something I need to do to be loved or worthy? Do I have negative self-talk which perpetuates high expectations of myself?
Nadine’s Question: In February, Nadine was working her dream job and she had the perfect man. Now four months later, she finds herself in a new job she is not interested in and her man left.
Nadine’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She may be looking at herself as a home improvement project ● She engages in negative self-talk ● She has the same relationship over and over again ● Her childhood is not her fault
How to get over it and on with it: ● Ask your inner counselor what am I learning ● Ask yourself “in order to be loved I need to” ● What would you say to yourself as a child? ● Take a deep dive into your spiritual practice
Tools and Takeaways: ● Spend some time single and fall in love with yourself ● Write down “In order to be loved, I need” and then finish the sentence ● Talk to your younger self and reassure them ● Practice self-care by nurturing yourself ● Allow yourself to feel your own emotions with compassion ● Understand you are not broken and become who you truly want to be
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