Ep 204: Over-Giving in Relationships: A Codependency Workshop

Aug 17, 2023

This episode explores over-giving in relationships and how it can lead to codependency. It discusses the impulse to control others and shares personal experiences. The importance of examining our habits and roles in relationships is emphasized. Tools for addressing over-giving and codependency are discussed, including setting boundaries and practicing self-care. The significance of living sustainably and prioritizing self-care is also highlighted.

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Introduction

00:00 • 4min

Codependency and the Impulse to Control

03:34 • 7min

Examining our Habits and Roles in Relationships

10:44 • 3min

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13:25 • 5min

Tools for Addressing Over-Giving and Codependency

18:43 • 16min

The Importance of Self-Care and Sustainable Living

34:34 • 7min

If you are a caregiver type or your relationship is somewhat uneven, this is an episode aimed at looking inward. It’s for seeing your role in how the imbalance is created. TBC, this is about becoming aware. Not making big moves or changes. Just simple curiosity and awareness. This is an episode that is going to challenge you!

There’s this totally unconscious thing that happens as you are revealed next to someone. We start to feel vulnerable and with that, we seek control. This is when we start to do more and give more as a means of feeling more secure. It’s to abate feelings of “less-than.”

If you are someone who gets too wrapped up in the thoughts or feelings of others then I think this episode will resonate with you. This also extends to feeling like you need others to act a certain way, or feeling like you are doing it all and the other person in your relationship is not doing enough. In other words, getting stuck in a caregiver role or a role where you are the one who is overactive, and they are the one who is under-active.

What it really comes down to is not being able to accept the truth of someone as they are. In that denial there is some overcompensation that occurs which leads to feeling really angry at them for not being the way you want them to be.

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