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Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation

44. Elimination, Simplification, and What Not to Eliminate

Oct 16, 2023
12:14

“One does not accumulate but eliminate. It is not daily increase but daily decrease. The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity.” -Bruce Lee

“Perfection is not when there is no more to add, but no more to take away.” -Antoine de Sainte Exulpery, Pioneer of international postal flight, and author of Le Petit Prince (the little prince)

“It is vain to do with more what can be done with less.” - William of Occam, originator of Occam’s razor

A lot of the guys who come to me for help, are smart, driven guys. They try hard. laziness is not their problem. 

A lot of them are very productive guys, or at least strive for productivity.

The hustle and the value of productivity aren’t bad, but the way they are expressed can get in the way of you learning to quit porn for good.

Remember, it’s not a porn problem, but a mind management problem.

Don’t try to solve your porn problem by starting with eliminating pleasure and self-care. It doesn’t work.

Busy-ness is one of the best things to start by eliminating.

Watch out for time-filling, in the name of productivity.

Become results focused. Learn to eliminate any time fillers that are doing nothing to create the results you want.

Learn to say no to others and treat that time you spend with yourself working on this as sacred. Your most important relationship is with yourself.

You may need to say no to spending your money on something, in order to direct it toward investing in the help that gets you the results you want.

What can you eliminate from your life, in a way that both simplifies, and enhances your ability to create the changes/results you want?


Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

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Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoaching
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Website: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here)

Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoaching
Ready to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me
Website: https://www.dannypoelman.com

Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

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