Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2724: Are You "Too Needy"? By Alysha Jeney of Modern Love Counseling on Fear of Rejection and Dating Advice
Sep 10, 2025
Alysha Jeney, a counselor at Modern Love Counseling, tackles the stigma of being labeled 'too needy' in relationships. She discusses how fear of rejection can lead to suppressing true needs, emphasizing that wanting reassurance is natural. Jeney advocates for expressing needs in a calm and vulnerable manner, fostering deeper connections rather than conflict. She believes that mutual security in relationships requires open communication and self-awareness, turning the notion of 'neediness' into a healthy expression of emotion.
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Neediness Often Masks Suppressed Needs
- Being labeled “too needy” often causes people to suppress legitimate needs and emotions out of shame or fear.
- That suppression leads to losing your voice and prevents deep understanding in relationships.
Holding Back Erodes Long-Term Safety
- Holding back early in relationships can feel safe but becomes harmful when it turns into chronic suppression.
- Building a relationship on partial truths produces insecurity and prevents deep connection.
Chromio Song Sparks Therapist Reflection
- Alysha recalls discovering the electro band Chromio and their song "Needy Girl," which stuck with her since high school.
- She now hears the lyrics differently as a therapist and psychoanalyzes their meaning related to relationships.