Better Sex 289: Navigating Faith Transition as a Couple with Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema
In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses faith transitions and the impact on intimate relationships with guests Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema, co-hosts of the Sex Evangelicals podcast and founders of an international coaching business. They delve into deconstructing purity culture, gender roles, and high-control religions, sharing personal stories and professional insights. They emphasize the importance of communication, managing stress, and supporting each other through deconstruction processes. The episode offers valuable strategies for individuals and couples coping with these complex dynamics.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:46 Introducing Guests: Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema
01:47 Jeremiah's Journey: From Faith to Sex Therapy
04:18 Julia's Story: Overcoming Purity Culture
06:46 Defining Purity Culture and High Control Religion
10:53 Deconstructing Harmful Beliefs
13:30 Reconstructing Values and Desires
17:15 Triggers for Deconstruction
19:35 Managing Differences in Relationships
23:05 Break and Resources from Jess
23:45 Navigating Different Paces in Deconstruction
25:02 Gender Dynamics in Deconstruction
27:55 Challenges in Mixed-Faith Relationships
29:22 The Role of Therapy in Relationship Dynamics
31:35 Purity Culture and Its Long-Term Impact
40:55 Resources and Support for Deconstruction
42:18 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Bio:
Julia Postema and Jeremiah Gibson are the co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. They are both Boston-based licensed psychotherapists and certified sex therapists. They have a relationship coaching practice called Let's Heal Together which helps couples with negative religious backgrounds discover sexuality and communication that works for their partnership. They enjoy traveling to places that tend to fly under the radar, long-distance hiking, cooking very spicy food, unexpected conversations, and introverted days filled with reading and drinking fancy tea.
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