The Top 3 Mistakes That Destroy Relationships—From a Divorce Judge Who’s Seen It All | Faith Jenkins (Fan Fav)

Jun 30, 2025

In this engaging discussion, Faith Jenkins, a celebrated attorney and host of Divorce Court, shares her insights on love and relationships. Drawing from her experiences, she emphasizes the hidden personal issues that can wreck relationships. Faith unveils the importance of emotional maturity and self-love while warning against the dangers of settling. She also highlights how therapy and clear communication can enrich partnerships. With a candid look at her own journey, she inspires listeners to seek authentic love without losing their self-worth.

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INSIGHT

Root Causes of Relationship Problems

Relationship problems often stem from unresolved personal issues brought into them.
Resentment, anger, and unforgiveness are deadly to love relationships.

ADVICE

Own Your Happiness First

Own your happiness and do not rely on a partner for joy.
Work on yourself first; your communication and emotional maturity shapes your relationships.

ADVICE

Accept, Reject, Don't Rebuild

When dating, you have three choices: accept who they are, reject kindly, or don't try to rebuild them.
Trying to rebuild someone causes resentment and relationship failure.

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This is a Fan Fav episode. Faith Jenkins—celebrated attorney, former Manhattan prosecutor, and current host of Divorce Court and Killer Relationships—joins me for one of the most powerful conversations we’ve ever had about love, relationships, and why so many seemingly solid unions unravel. Faith lays it all out: the hidden issues from our past that quietly sabotage our relationships, the role of resentment and unspoken expectations, and how the external pressure to “just pick someone” can land you in heartache—or worse. With deep candor about her own 20-year journey as a single woman, Faith reveals the self-work, boundaries, and radical honesty required to not only find love but to build a relationship that actually lasts.

From the dangers of settling to the critical importance of therapy and emotional maturity, Faith shares the blueprint behind her new book, Sis, Don’t Settle. This episode is a masterclass in learning to love yourself first, embrace rejection without losing your self-worth, and choosing a partner who adds to your happiness instead of completing it. If you want to break cycles of heartbreak and step boldly into lasting, authentic love, this is the conversation you’ve been waiting for.

SHOWNOTES

00:00 – You can be the total package at the wrong address: Why singleness isn’t a defect
01:16 – The real roots of breakups and divorce: People don’t have relationship problems, they bring personal problems into relationships
05:50 – Bringing happiness to your ever after: Why you must own your own joy before seeking a partner
08:44 – The three choices in dating: Accept, reject kindly, or (don’t!) try to rebuild someone
11:53 – Resentment: The silent destroyer of love and how ignoring red flags leads to disaster
15:47 – The cost of staying too long: Why “choosing history over happiness” keeps you trapped
18:56 – Are you both committed to the same commitment? The (often unasked) question that saves relationships
24:45 – Faith’s journey to love after 40: Letting go of cynicism and writing her own “love manifesto”
36:48 – The danger zone: How external pressure and timelines push women to settle
46:17 – Doing your due diligence: Why Faith went to therapy before saying yes to forever

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