I'm so sick of guys saying women don't want nice men. Healthy women definitively want kind, helpful and caring men. The few women that want narcissistic assholes generally have Borderline Personality Disorder and an abuse history that makes them feel "at home" with guys who mistreat them. Thankfully this is a very low percent of women. Most guys have to be nicer, as do most women. Listen for an infusion of common sense.